I have often thought of the importance of “holding space” for my self-conception to be be wrong. This space allows me to observe my behavior as proof-in-the-pudding so to speak. If I say I am kind, do I act it? If I say I am grateful for the contributions of others, do I give credit where credit is due? And so on.

As you point out, a healthy skepticism about our own vision of ourselves should offer perspective to both those who aggrandize and those who think too little of themselves as well.

Certainly an interesting essay!

Drawing from life experience and a master’s in organizational leadership, I write about parenting, leading, relationships, and personal growth.