I have found this to be true in so many different contexts. For some reason, and for too long, I thought there was a cost to me of being the initiator — Like I was on the losing side of a power struggle. Just as you say, a”pride thing.”

But then I realized IT COSTS ME NOTHING to be the first. As long as I have the energy to do it (and I’m aware of my own and other people’s boundaries), I will.

I have made so many friends this way. And even if nothing more than a “hello” is ever exchanged, knowing I have the love to give and then to give it freely is part of my core operating system nowadays.

I’m so glad you shared this important advice to readers.

Drawing from life experience and a master’s in organizational leadership, I write about parenting, leading, relationships, and personal growth.